Hi guys, yeah been a while I came on here I know. Uni has been taking so much of my time trying to get all the course-works done and all that but in any which way I still squeezed out time for my own favourite people. Yeah I love you guys. Well Well Well, today I am here to share with you something I had a think about.
It all started the other day I was on bellanaija and this particular topic drew ma attention, it was called 'Loving the man and his Ring'. The author of the story was telling a story about how she fell in love with a man that had a fiancée and they both did not back off seeing each other till the man got married and the man became a man with a ring. Her question was is it ok for her to love the man and his ring together.
At the end of the article, almost everyone who commented on that post insulted the author. They condemned her that why should she put herself in such a situation, they said why should she have kept loving him all along when she knew the man had someone he wanted to get married to and which he eventually did. The author claimed the man kept professing his love for her but everyone's argument was if he really did love her, why was she still the other woman, why didn't the guy break his engagement and marry her instead of who he ended up marrying.
After I read the comments, I thought 'hmm'. Well I blame the author and I also do not blame her at the same time. As a lady or a girl, we have no control over who we get attracted to or who we will really like. She could not help herself from liking this guy maybe because the guy was feeding her with what she wanted to hear(lies) and she was loving the feeling and letting her emotions take charge of her (I know I love saying this a lot). She was not thinking because she loved the feeling of the moment and the guy knowing this took advantage of that and kept working around it. This is why I do not really blame her.
However, I blame her because she made herself available to be lied to, the guy has at least tried by telling her he had someone he was planning to take to the altar and meeting her is not going to change that fact but because she was stupid and she was a bad person, she still hung there acting the side chick. The moment the guy told her he had a fiancée, she was meant to have backed out and look for someone else. She did not even put herself in the other woman's shoes. What if she was the main woman and her supposed fiancée had this other side chick how would she have felt. She kept having fun with another woman's man and also kept getting jealous of his relationship.
Ok fine, even if she had been a bad vessel all along preying on another woman's man and this did not even make the man break his engagement ( which means she was not what he wanted), got married to what he wanted and the lady was still seeing this man when he now has a ring on is the height of everything. Even the bible curses anyone who tries to break a home. No one should should between a man and his wife even if the wife does not know about it, a curse is already placed on whoever stands between them. Now she claims she is confused I mean what is she confused about? Will she want her own husband seeing another woman? Before you do something put yourself in other people's shoes and see for yourself how well it fits.
My 2cents for every woman is that never try to date a married man, you will bring a curse on yourself, you are also hurting another woman, breaking her home. As soon as you know the man in question even has a girlfriend you should just walk out. It is never ok for you to keep seeing him. If he promises you that he will break up with his girl because of you then you should run as fast as your legs can carry because IF HE CAN DO IT FOR YOU THEN HE WILL DO IT TO YOU. That is too certain no doubt about it and if that is why you are happy and still hanging in there please I tell you now run because that type of guy is not meant for you. What makes you think if he finds a better person he wouldn't leave you for her aswell? Do not be an instrument of destruction.
Ladies, do not look into spoiling or breaking homes. This is what I think, what do you guys think as well? Please share your thoughts.
