My Dream Woman

It all began on sunny afternoon, sun was shinning bright when I saw this epitome of beauty, her skin glowed in the sun she was a perfect woman. She was walking towards where my friends and I were and there was joy in my heart as I noticed this, I did not realize she was with two of her other friends as I was busy admiring her. Then one of my friends tapped me back to life.
Perfect because they were my friend's friend and they had come to chill with my friends and I on this Saturday afternoon. Her name is Laura, a wonderful name for a wonderful lady right? Yes I had the same thoughts. Her body was more than perfect, she was an angel, a God sent with her thick African curvy body, straight and nice legs, about 5ft8 in height, she ticked all the boxes for a perfect woman for me.
I on the other hand wouldn't call myself a wow handsome young man but I ticked the boxes for most ladies I have met in my lifetime. Amazing 6ft2 guy, sexy body with my albs and muscles intact and a good face to match this body. I have a good job in one of the best banks in Nigeria, I own my apartment and I have a car. Don't get me wrong, I did not say I am very rich but I am comfortable enough to take care of my woman's needs. She works with a telecommunications company, she was a good talker and a good listener(this I really admired). I noticed how well she will listen to other people's opinion and as also engage in a good conversation with you. Nice, humble,friendly and jovial lady and yea she ticked all the boxes of my dream woman. We got along from the first day and I took a further step of taking her phone number, then I had a date with her the following weekend, it was heavenly as all heads titled as we walked in the room. I was so proud to be the man with this gorgeous lady everyone in  the room is admiring, (even the females were looking at us or maybe they were admiring me who knows). 
Overtime the friendship grew and became stronger, she was classy, elegant, name it and she can claim it. After a while we got together in a relationship, yea we became an item. It was sweet and good for 5years then I thought I should put a ring on it. I had taken her to my mom a couple of times and yes she is a wife material, cooks well, very neat and tidy trust me she almost had no flaws (of course she had one or two, no one is born perfect).
The day came for me to ask my lady to marry me, the night I had my plans to put a ring on it ( oh yeah before I forget she is excellent in bed, satisfies her man very very well). I had my plans mapped out and I planned with some air hostesses because we were both going to Abuja from Lagos by air. One of the air hostesses was going to put the ring in her drink and after she has taken her drink she will find the ring then I will ask her to marry me (proposal tip for guys there). Everything worked according to plan and the air hostesses were around to clap and cheer as soon as she says yes to my proposal.
After my dream woman had her drink and found the ring in it, she frowned and looked at me and said 'Can you imagine these Nigerian airlines, what is the meaning of this?' and then I said to her will you marry me on my knees. She stood up, gave a stern look and then a very hot slap and then she dashed to the lavatory. I was in shock, I could not even take my seat and everyone was asking me "Is she not your girlfriend?, why will she do that?" etc. I was just dumbfounded and looked like a fool.
When she came back from the lavatory she said nothing to me till we got to Abuja and there she made it clear to me that I did not match her standards, yes you read that right my dream woman of 5years said I wasn't her type of man, I was too poor for her to think of settling down with me. Her eyes were on one of the rich men's children in Nigeria, she told me she enjoyed my company and attention that was why she has been with me but she saw no future with someone like me. She said so many hurting things to me and I could not help but think I was dreaming, the disgrace on the plane was grand, a woman I have been with for 5years did not see me in her future because she wanted someone very rich, she could not suffer for any reason. Yes I was more than hurt but life must go on, it was evident enough she did not want me but what will I tell momma? She was already thinking I have found myself a good thing. Can we call that a bloody friendzone of 5years? and I could not see any signs till I asked her to marry me.
Suddenly I heard my alarm went off in my sleep and then I checked my time it was 5:30am time to get ready for work. I was sweating profusely and was pondering over this horrible dream or should I say nightmare I have just had. Wheeewww! Thank God it was just a dream though if it had been real how will I have lived with the shame in my life? Yes she was my dream woman and she only existed in my dream I think that is why I will never get her because she lives in my dream

How long should you wait to know if he is real or not

The thought of writing about this topic came to me when I was having a discussion with some of my female friends. It all started when one of us was telling was about how this guy she met at uni stalks her and  that she got frustrated that she had to tell her boyfriend about the guy. The boyfriend took it upon himself to protect his girl and she told us that he went to the guy and told him to leave his girl alone, after this the stalker guy stopped talking to her. As we were all laughing and making the most of the time, my friend asked a question that could this guy be genuinely in love with her? Me and my other friends were a bit confused by this question and we were just sat there looking at each other's faces, we had no answer to her question no one was sure if the really liked or loved her or was just telling her to get into her pants.

Then on my own I was thinking is it possible for a guy you met just over 3months be claiming love already?  She met the guy at the start of uni in September and they have been friends since then. After we went for Christmas break in December and came back January, this guy came to her and told her he loved her. My friend said she was shocked and she felt like slapping him because she thought he just wanted to take advantage of the fact that they are friends. Then the next day, I said to my friend "you know I thought about this and I think he might actually really like you" she was like what do I mean, I said he could really like you and could have been thinking about you through out the holiday but may be he just interpreted his feelings wrong.She looked at me like I was crazy then I explained to her I know love is not something you should just say out and that I know it takes time for someone of the opposite sex to actually say to you I love you because even 2people dating sometimes do not profess their love for each other until after like 3months into the relationship so obviously the guy could have really liked her and interpreted his feelings in a wrong way or he could just have said it in other to get into her pants.

That is my own view on an issue like this but when and how to you actually know when a guy is real? How are these girls supposed to know if he is not just lieing to get her on his bed. I think its really hard and its like a risk because we all know guys can lie. Is it crazy for a guy to say he loves you when he is just your friend and not even with you?, Assuming you guys are now together how long should it take for him to start professing his love? or is just something in you that makes you know? is it different for each person? are there some things you should see in your partner that will make you know if he or she is now in love with you or not?

I need answers to these questions, need you guys to share your own views about what you think is right, what attributes will make you as a person say yes this is love or not?

Behaviour or Looks?

*phew* *dusts page* *sweeps everywhere* wow!! long time right? yes I know its not my fault though uni has been crazy! But guess what? I finished ma exams today *yaaaahhh* so I am back!

Well wondering what I have this time around? lol you know I love it when you keep wondering, anyways a friend shared a story with me and I just thought hmmm let me bring this on here for my people to comment on. The story got me thinking what do guys of our time really want in a woman?? It is kinder very hard to know and i do not think any one can even come to a conclusion that this is what guys want because one guy might want this and the other might want something else! I basically believe what ever a guy wants depends on what type of guy he is. The story my friend shared with me is a bit funny but that just made me think out of the humour of that story let's get serious what do we all really think these guys want? this story goes like this 

Men. . . . .

Ikenna wanted to get married.
He was having trouble choosing among three likely candidates [Ifeoma, Nneka & Ngozi]. He gives each woman a present of N700,000 and watches to see what they do with the money.

Ifeoma does a total make over. She goes to a fancy beauty salon gets her hair done, new make up and buys several new outfits and dresses up very nicely for the man. She tells him that she has done this to be more attractive for him because she loves him so much.
Ikenna was impressed...

Nneka goes shopping to buy the man gifts. She gets him a new set of golf clubs, some new gizmos for his computer, and some expensive clothes. As she presents these gifts, she tells him that she has spent all the money on him because she loves him so much.
Again, the man is impressed.

Ngozi invests the money in the stock market. She earns sevMeral times the N700,000. She gives him back his N700,000 and reinvests the remainder in a joint account. She tells him that she wants to save for their future because she loves him so much.
Obviously, Ikenna was impressed.

He thought for a long time about what each woman had done with the money he'd given her.
Then, he married the one with the biggest boobs... 
Bet u did see that coming :p

LOL funny right? yes but what can we ladies do to satisfy a man? is it by having big boobs because to be honest I do not know what the fuss is about big boobs lately looks like almost all guys are looking for that. Girls with small boobs are even feeling left out because all guys want big boobs then you blame the ones that pad it up? why? they know thats what you want to see so they deceive you. so can i get comments please? what do guys want?  or do guys want a girl who is ambitious? a girl that has class? or is it just about the thickness of her body?? the figure 8 look?? or is if she can give it to him well in bed?? which one is it? pleaseeee your comments are really needed. 
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Dating a married man?

Hi guys, yeah been a while I came on here I know. Uni has been taking so much of my time trying to get all the course-works done and all that but in any which way I still squeezed out time for my own favourite people. Yeah I love you guys. Well Well Well, today I am here to share with you something I had a think about.

It all started the other day I was on bellanaija and this particular topic drew ma attention, it was called 'Loving the man and his Ring'. The author of the story was telling a story about how she fell in love with a man that had a fiancée and  they both did not back off seeing each other till the man got married and the man became a man with a ring. Her question was is it ok for her to love the man and his ring together.

At the end of the article, almost everyone who commented on that post insulted the author. They condemned her that why should she put herself in such a situation, they said why should she have kept loving him all along when she knew the man had someone he wanted to get married to and which he eventually did. The author claimed the man kept professing his love for her but everyone's argument was if he really did love her, why was she still the other woman, why didn't the guy break his engagement and marry her instead of who he ended up marrying.

After I read the comments, I thought 'hmm'. Well I blame the author and I also do not blame her at the same time. As a lady or a girl, we have no control over who we get attracted to or who we will really like. She could not help herself from liking this guy maybe because the guy was feeding her with what she wanted to hear(lies) and she was loving the feeling and letting her emotions take charge of her (I know I love saying this a lot). She was not thinking because she loved the feeling of the moment and the guy knowing this took advantage of that and kept working around it. This is why I do not really blame her.

However, I blame her because she made herself available to be lied to, the guy has at least tried by telling her he had someone he was planning to take to the altar and meeting her is not going to change that fact but because she was stupid and she was a bad person, she still hung there acting the side chick. The moment the guy told her he had a fiancée,  she was meant to have backed out and look for someone else. She did not even put herself in  the other woman's shoes. What if  she was the main woman and her supposed fiancée had this other side chick how would she have felt. She kept having fun with another woman's man and also kept getting jealous of his relationship.

Ok fine, even if she had been a bad vessel all along preying on another woman's man and this did not even make the man break his engagement ( which means she was not what he wanted), got married to what he wanted and the lady was still seeing this man when he now has a ring on is the height of everything. Even the bible curses anyone who tries to break a home. No one should should between a man and his wife even if the wife does not know about it, a curse is already placed on whoever stands between them. Now she claims she is confused I mean what is she confused about? Will she want her own husband seeing another woman? Before you do something put yourself in other people's shoes and see for yourself how well it fits.

My 2cents for every woman is that never try to date a married man, you will bring a curse on yourself, you are also hurting another woman, breaking her home. As soon as you know  the man in question even has a girlfriend you should just walk out. It is never ok for you to keep seeing him. If he promises you that he will break up with his girl because of you then you should run as fast as your legs can carry because IF HE CAN DO IT FOR YOU THEN HE WILL DO IT TO YOU. That is too certain no doubt about it and if that is why you are happy and still hanging in there please I tell you now run because that type of guy is not meant for you. What makes you think if he finds a better person he wouldn't leave you for her aswell? Do not be an instrument of destruction.

Ladies, do not look into spoiling or breaking homes. This is what I think, what do you guys think as well? Please share your thoughts.

Smashing IT

Hey hey hey! Yes I am here again, I am sure some people are thinking what has she got this time.. lol :). Well something came into my mind today when I was in church, ( don't judge me, not like I wasn't listening to the pastor) I saw some ladies in church and I got thinking wow because something just drew my attention to them. So I thought to myself let me even bring this on here and see what you guys also think of it.

I know you do not have an idea of what I am about to unveil but if you have been thinking dirty its time to bring your mind out of the gutter :p lol.. because I do not mean the kind of smashing some of you might be thinking. as I said earlier, I was in church and I saw some ladies with heavy make up on like their faces were colouring boards! When I say colouring board best believe that it is just an understatement. You guys should have seen how they just painted their faces. That got me thinking why do girls smash their make ups on like this??? What even beats me is that some girls look really pretty without having no make up on, even the bible recommends that we should do everything in moderation and I don't think making up is excluded.

Please do not get me wrong I am not saying don't wear make up or anything, all I am saying is do it in moderation. Don't put it on like you just poured it on your face, let it be light and moderate and you yourself would not believe how well your beauty will glow. I am not a big fan of make up (not like I do not use it sometimes), but when I want to use it I just put a little on and I think ladies should start doing that too trust me those guys do not like it when you look like a walking doll, they laugh at you because they think why is she so fake?

You know what surprises me most! Those girls that do not even know when to put heavy make up on (when I say heavy I don't mean you should now smash it on). Look at this yeah, your are going to Uni or just going out to see a friend and you look like a masquerade that if you step into the streets your make up is what everyone will see first. Some people will even think you are going to a club ( even though its day time lol)

Please guys do not criticise me on this, this is just my thought and I felt I should share it on here and also see what you guys think. I do not support you smashing it on like a masquerade and I also love it when ladies know when to have their make up light or heavy. What I find funny sometimes are church workers especially the choristers with smashed or heavy make up on and you are there in front singing, please do you think church members are singing along or they are just busy looking at the wow make up 'sister singer' has got on?? You are just an item of distraction to people!

What do you guys think? All comments are welcomed and please remember not to judge me -_- lol

How to know Mr. Right

You know I just sit and think why it is difficult for us girls to find that ‘perfect guy’. I mean why we can’t find that guy of our dreams. Is it something we are doing or is it just that there is no ‘perfect guy’ out there?

When I had a good thought about it, I came to some conclusions one of which I think we girls let our emotions take charge of us and we all have the fear of being alone. No one girl wants to be alone, we all want that one guy we can call our own. I have a little story to make you understand what I am trying to say.

Two friends, they trust each other so very much, they never hide anything from each other and they know each other’s families. We will assume their names are Sayo and Tito. Sayo broke up with her boyfriend of 2years because it was not working out, she told her close friend Tito about it and Tito thought it was a good idea. With time, Sayo was feeling lonely and could not take it anymore but these times her ex was still hanging in there and begging her to come back but because she was done with him she did not want to accept him. The guy did nothing horrible Sayo broke up because it was a long distance relationship and the guy in question was very insecure and very controlling.

During these lonely times for Sayo, heavens smiled at her one day, the day her friend Tito used her picture as DP on BBM then this guy Sayo had once met wanted her pin. Tito gave him and boom Sayo and the guy got acquainted (We will call the guy Fola). They are always talking to each other, if they are not chatting they are on the phone to each other or on Skype! It was that bad, it became an everyday thing and Sayo got so fond of Fola that she could not help herself. Note: she let her emotions take charge of her!!!!! After about few weeks of talking and all, Fola decided to pay Sayo a visit oh before that, Fola told her how and what he feels for her he told her how much he likes her and how much he thought he has been fulfilled since he started talking to her. This was like a dream come true for Sayo and she also professed her feelings to him. It was one of the best days of her life. They told each other how great they feel about each other. So the visiting part came in, Fola decided to come and spend some time with that girl he likes so much in other to get to know her better and they both decided that he could sleep over.

It all worked out well as planned, he came slept over and you know all the hugs and kisses part came in including cuddling (you know all these things can’t be prevented from happening) they had a very good weekend together but they had not started going out yet though Fola already asked her out and Sayo was planning to say yes to him when next he comes which was the coming week because they planned on seeing again.

As you will have it, before this next time of meeting, Fola sent a very long rather depressing message to Sayo explaining how he has rushed in to things and all that and how he thinks they need to stop talking because he needs to get his life together and sort himself out because he foresees himself cheating on her if they actually start something off together. It was a very sad time for Sayo because that was the last thing she was expecting from him, he seemed so real and true but guess she was wrong but she decided to be strong again and move on with her life. When all these happened, Sayo told her friend Tito and Tito said she thinks what 


Fola has done was the right thing because it was better than later when it will be more painful.

All these times, Sayo’s ex was still hanging there and was still begging her to come back to him but Sayo remained adamant even after her beloved Fola broke her heart she still dint want to go back to her ex because she did not feel anything for him anymore and she thought the best thing for them is to go their separate ways

So what mistake has been made here? Was Sayo too quick too like Fola or Fola was a bad person. What do you guys think of the story? Who is the Mr. Right Sayo should go for? Should she go back to her ex or should she wait for Fola to finish sorting his life out?

What Girls need to know about themselves

It is widely believed that girls are vulnerable creatures, soft hearted and as such their minds should not be played or toyed with, but we all know this not possible because some guys are just out there to play and toy with the hearts of different girls. It is also believed that girls are the weaker version of the human creature.

I picked up my pen today to change that believe everyone has, yes I agree we girls are vulnerable ( yes I’m a girl) but we are not weak vessels, HELL NO we are not infact we are stronger than we think we only need to understand some things that will help bring out the strength in us. One of the things we need to know and understand is that we are the PRIZE.

Yes the prize, you are the golden prize that one man should be chasing, running and wanting to get. Don’t just be a waste and if you want to be hard to be forgotten then you must be hard to get in the first place. Now don’t get me wrong, I am not saying be stuck up and that but respect yourself as the prize which you are DON’T KISS HIS ASS. Don’t make him think he is the prize because he is not you are. Fact remains that when a guy sees you for the first time, he is attracted to your looks, he is attracted to what he can see, your shape, legs lips just anything he can see at that moment and that is what draws him to you + in his head he is thinking of how he will get into your pants (you can argue not all guys think this way but 97% of them do). You as the prize need to know what to do to make yourself worthy. If he talks to you, be friendly, don’t talk like a cheap slut, and be friendly but frank and firm at the same time. You have the power to decide whether the conversation of that day will lead on from there or not. If he asks for your number, don’t give yours if you are not sure of him collect his and tell him you will call (do not promise). When you get home have a think about it if you want a further conversation, send him a text so he can have your number. Do not call him and do not give too much detail in your text. If he cannot remember you name in the text he is probably not the serious one. After sending the text, he should be the one to call you if he does not please forget him. If you gave him your number, he is very likely to call you because he has a mission, you are the one who needs to make sure he sweats before he gets you. When he calls be nice to him and talk to him as a friend NOTE: DO NOT LET YOUR EMOTIONS TAKE CHARGE OF YOU! NEVER!!!!!  Set some principles like he should not call you after a certain time, he should not call you every day or every time and he should understand when you are busy and needs to be left alone. If he is meant for you all these would not scare him away because he knows he wants to get the prize (you). If he just wants to get into your pants these rules might just send him away, well if it does then let him go who wants a player anyway you will find the right one soon.

Ok that settles that, what if you are in a relationship already and you notice that you do the calling all the time, he rarely checks up on you, he does not even remember when he promises to do something for you until you remind him. Please ladies don’t be stupid the hand writing is on the wall, it is bold enough for you to see don’t be an ass kisser let the idiot go. If you have called him to order and discussed it with him so many times and still can’t see changes then I think you should move on. Some guys even say they don’t think they are obliged to talk to their girlfriends every day, not even a text to check up on her like seriously? How are you meant to know she is fine or you just assume she is? She might need you emotionally at a point but when you don’t even check up on her how will you know if she is fine or not.

Girls, the big mistake we make is pretending we did not see the hand writing, we keep making up excuses for him like he will get better, maybe he is just very busy for now and all that. Don’t be stupid nothing is going to get better infact it will be worse than it is and then you will be the weaker vessel because you can’t take the frustration anymore. When things like these happens it means you need to move on and get someone better who is worthy of you. You may be thinking I have been with him for 2years or even more I can’t just let go, does it mean I have wasted my life and time. I understand that feeling but will you because of that be in an unhappy relationship? You should free yourself, discover yourself and be happy with yourself so you can give the next guy a chance he might just be the right one.

Another thing is you need to know if he sees you in his future or not, if he doesn’t why should you be in his present? If he cannot publicly show you off to the world please he is not the right guy for you. If he only introduces you by your first name to families and friends then he has nothing for you. He is only playing you even if he introduces you as his ‘girl’ it’s still not enough he needs to address you as his ‘girlfriend’ then yeah it looks like he has plans for you. If he cannot do this then just move on never think its ok for him to introduce you by your first name, don’t make excuses when the hand writing is there. If your guy loves you then he is ready to show you off to the world that he loves and he is proud of you

Ok, he invited you out on a date and it went well (it’s the first date), then he wants a kiss??? Oh really, just because he has spent on you then he wants something in return? No, do not kiss a guy on your first date because the first date is meant for you to get to know each other. May be after a couple of dates you can give him that but not the first second or even third dates. That is by the way the one I don’t seem to get is going home with him after the first date. Girls what do you portray of yourself? You should never sleep over at his on first, second or third dates. It is not about something happening (we all know what I mean), it’s about giving yourself the respect and acting like the ‘golden prize’. He will respect you more so please take note.

Note: having sex with him is entirely up to you but as a Christian I will advise you to leave sex till later possibly your wedding night but because I am not here to preach to you about when you should do the ‘do’ I won’t go deep into that. Every woman to her decision but I want to urge you not to have sex with him or even sleep over at his for the first 5 to 6months you start dating him ( if you will sleep over ensure you do not have sex yet). Don’t let him get in there easily at least not yet until you are sure of him to some extent. Oh? You are scared that he will go away? Please let him go if you have to use sex to make him stay then he aint worth you. Yes guys love sex but he can do without it for just 5 to 6months if he can’t Then he is not meant for you. Just let him go and no he can’t get it outside till you are ready he will have to wait till you are. Always remember this piece ‘SEX WON’T TRAP HIM DOWN, SLEEPING IN HIS PLACE WON’T MAKE YOU IS FAVOURITE, GETTING PREGNANT FOR HIM WON’T MAKE HIM LOVE YOU AND IT WON’T GIVE YOU A PASS PLEASE BE WISE’.

I hope I have been able to make ladies/girls understand how important and how special you are. You are the ‘PRIZE’ so never ever compromise that. Let him sweat before he gets you. Remember ‘IF YOU WANT TO BE HARD TO FORGET THE YOU MUST BE HARD TO GET AT FIRST’