Behaviour or Looks?

*phew* *dusts page* *sweeps everywhere* wow!! long time right? yes I know its not my fault though uni has been crazy! But guess what? I finished ma exams today *yaaaahhh* so I am back!

Well wondering what I have this time around? lol you know I love it when you keep wondering, anyways a friend shared a story with me and I just thought hmmm let me bring this on here for my people to comment on. The story got me thinking what do guys of our time really want in a woman?? It is kinder very hard to know and i do not think any one can even come to a conclusion that this is what guys want because one guy might want this and the other might want something else! I basically believe what ever a guy wants depends on what type of guy he is. The story my friend shared with me is a bit funny but that just made me think out of the humour of that story let's get serious what do we all really think these guys want? this story goes like this 

Men. . . . .

Ikenna wanted to get married.
He was having trouble choosing among three likely candidates [Ifeoma, Nneka & Ngozi]. He gives each woman a present of N700,000 and watches to see what they do with the money.

Ifeoma does a total make over. She goes to a fancy beauty salon gets her hair done, new make up and buys several new outfits and dresses up very nicely for the man. She tells him that she has done this to be more attractive for him because she loves him so much.
Ikenna was impressed...

Nneka goes shopping to buy the man gifts. She gets him a new set of golf clubs, some new gizmos for his computer, and some expensive clothes. As she presents these gifts, she tells him that she has spent all the money on him because she loves him so much.
Again, the man is impressed.

Ngozi invests the money in the stock market. She earns sevMeral times the N700,000. She gives him back his N700,000 and reinvests the remainder in a joint account. She tells him that she wants to save for their future because she loves him so much.
Obviously, Ikenna was impressed.

He thought for a long time about what each woman had done with the money he'd given her.
Then, he married the one with the biggest boobs... 
Bet u did see that coming :p

LOL funny right? yes but what can we ladies do to satisfy a man? is it by having big boobs because to be honest I do not know what the fuss is about big boobs lately looks like almost all guys are looking for that. Girls with small boobs are even feeling left out because all guys want big boobs then you blame the ones that pad it up? why? they know thats what you want to see so they deceive you. so can i get comments please? what do guys want?  or do guys want a girl who is ambitious? a girl that has class? or is it just about the thickness of her body?? the figure 8 look?? or is if she can give it to him well in bed?? which one is it? pleaseeee your comments are really needed. 
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Dating a married man?

Hi guys, yeah been a while I came on here I know. Uni has been taking so much of my time trying to get all the course-works done and all that but in any which way I still squeezed out time for my own favourite people. Yeah I love you guys. Well Well Well, today I am here to share with you something I had a think about.

It all started the other day I was on bellanaija and this particular topic drew ma attention, it was called 'Loving the man and his Ring'. The author of the story was telling a story about how she fell in love with a man that had a fiancée and  they both did not back off seeing each other till the man got married and the man became a man with a ring. Her question was is it ok for her to love the man and his ring together.

At the end of the article, almost everyone who commented on that post insulted the author. They condemned her that why should she put herself in such a situation, they said why should she have kept loving him all along when she knew the man had someone he wanted to get married to and which he eventually did. The author claimed the man kept professing his love for her but everyone's argument was if he really did love her, why was she still the other woman, why didn't the guy break his engagement and marry her instead of who he ended up marrying.

After I read the comments, I thought 'hmm'. Well I blame the author and I also do not blame her at the same time. As a lady or a girl, we have no control over who we get attracted to or who we will really like. She could not help herself from liking this guy maybe because the guy was feeding her with what she wanted to hear(lies) and she was loving the feeling and letting her emotions take charge of her (I know I love saying this a lot). She was not thinking because she loved the feeling of the moment and the guy knowing this took advantage of that and kept working around it. This is why I do not really blame her.

However, I blame her because she made herself available to be lied to, the guy has at least tried by telling her he had someone he was planning to take to the altar and meeting her is not going to change that fact but because she was stupid and she was a bad person, she still hung there acting the side chick. The moment the guy told her he had a fiancée,  she was meant to have backed out and look for someone else. She did not even put herself in  the other woman's shoes. What if  she was the main woman and her supposed fiancée had this other side chick how would she have felt. She kept having fun with another woman's man and also kept getting jealous of his relationship.

Ok fine, even if she had been a bad vessel all along preying on another woman's man and this did not even make the man break his engagement ( which means she was not what he wanted), got married to what he wanted and the lady was still seeing this man when he now has a ring on is the height of everything. Even the bible curses anyone who tries to break a home. No one should should between a man and his wife even if the wife does not know about it, a curse is already placed on whoever stands between them. Now she claims she is confused I mean what is she confused about? Will she want her own husband seeing another woman? Before you do something put yourself in other people's shoes and see for yourself how well it fits.

My 2cents for every woman is that never try to date a married man, you will bring a curse on yourself, you are also hurting another woman, breaking her home. As soon as you know  the man in question even has a girlfriend you should just walk out. It is never ok for you to keep seeing him. If he promises you that he will break up with his girl because of you then you should run as fast as your legs can carry because IF HE CAN DO IT FOR YOU THEN HE WILL DO IT TO YOU. That is too certain no doubt about it and if that is why you are happy and still hanging in there please I tell you now run because that type of guy is not meant for you. What makes you think if he finds a better person he wouldn't leave you for her aswell? Do not be an instrument of destruction.

Ladies, do not look into spoiling or breaking homes. This is what I think, what do you guys think as well? Please share your thoughts.

Smashing IT

Hey hey hey! Yes I am here again, I am sure some people are thinking what has she got this time.. lol :). Well something came into my mind today when I was in church, ( don't judge me, not like I wasn't listening to the pastor) I saw some ladies in church and I got thinking wow because something just drew my attention to them. So I thought to myself let me even bring this on here and see what you guys also think of it.

I know you do not have an idea of what I am about to unveil but if you have been thinking dirty its time to bring your mind out of the gutter :p lol.. because I do not mean the kind of smashing some of you might be thinking. as I said earlier, I was in church and I saw some ladies with heavy make up on like their faces were colouring boards! When I say colouring board best believe that it is just an understatement. You guys should have seen how they just painted their faces. That got me thinking why do girls smash their make ups on like this??? What even beats me is that some girls look really pretty without having no make up on, even the bible recommends that we should do everything in moderation and I don't think making up is excluded.

Please do not get me wrong I am not saying don't wear make up or anything, all I am saying is do it in moderation. Don't put it on like you just poured it on your face, let it be light and moderate and you yourself would not believe how well your beauty will glow. I am not a big fan of make up (not like I do not use it sometimes), but when I want to use it I just put a little on and I think ladies should start doing that too trust me those guys do not like it when you look like a walking doll, they laugh at you because they think why is she so fake?

You know what surprises me most! Those girls that do not even know when to put heavy make up on (when I say heavy I don't mean you should now smash it on). Look at this yeah, your are going to Uni or just going out to see a friend and you look like a masquerade that if you step into the streets your make up is what everyone will see first. Some people will even think you are going to a club ( even though its day time lol)

Please guys do not criticise me on this, this is just my thought and I felt I should share it on here and also see what you guys think. I do not support you smashing it on like a masquerade and I also love it when ladies know when to have their make up light or heavy. What I find funny sometimes are church workers especially the choristers with smashed or heavy make up on and you are there in front singing, please do you think church members are singing along or they are just busy looking at the wow make up 'sister singer' has got on?? You are just an item of distraction to people!

What do you guys think? All comments are welcomed and please remember not to judge me -_- lol