Bedroom Relationships

I was having a catch up session with one of my girlfriends recently and I was inspired to write on this topic. We got talking and she started telling me about this girl who has a ‘bedroom relationship’ with her boyfriend.

What I gathered from our conversation is that the said boyfriend does not like making his private life publicly known so that means no going out on dates of any kind. If they want to have a dinner date, it all goes down in the guy’s house with candles and all that stuff, if they want to watch a movie they will rather stay home and have their own home cinema. So basically the world does not know that they are an item, they are the only ones that know that they exist, pretty sad right? That's what I thought.

Now let’s get talking, I personally believe making your relationship life private is totally different from your partner not being proud of you. Why would you be in a 'committed' relationship with someone who isn't proud enough to take you out or even introduce you as his girl to anyone? Do you really think you are in a relationship or in some sort of joke? I am going to be blunt and straightforward here, there is no need sugar-coating this I think, it is very stupid for any girl to be in a committed relationship with a guy who isn't ready to show you off. A guy who is in love with you will be crazy about you and would be ready to show the world that he's got you.  The minute he begins to talk about wanting to keep you private he is not serious and he is probably just keeping you as an option. If he isn't ready to show you off he is not ready for commitment, he doesn't know what he wants, he doesn't know your worth and/ or he just isn't sure if you are what he wants. If you guys have only just started going out, then I can understand if he doesn't want it public yet but when it’s getting to about a year and he is still keeping it private?, girl have a rethink.

If a guy is confused about you, as a girl who knows her worth and knows God has prepared that one man for her you will help him decide by deleting yourself as one of his options (hard, I know). You are not an option and should never let any guy make you one. Your father (God) is a king and you are his princess so he already has a prince for you, the one who will know what your worth and be ready to show you off to the world. Simply because, princess don't get to be private. If you keep enduring this joke of a guy you will be missing out on the one God has prepared for you. Once you leave the joker, work on making yourself better as a single lady so when your prince comes you will be ready.

I know it’s easier said than done because you are madly in love with this guy but truth is you deserve better and in situations like that you have to push yourself, surround yourself with friends that can uplift your spirit, occupy your mind with productive things and you will see how well you will be doing. Never be an option to any guy because you are a priority to one guy.