The New Trend?

Hi guys, I know I haven't been faithful to you guys and I am so sorry, Laziness somehow just got a hold of me but I pray I overcome that this year and be more dedicated to my blog. You will be getting more of me this year by God's grace. Now to the topic of today! The new trend.. What about the new trend? What is the new trend? Please read and feel free to comment.

I certainly didn't get the memo but I think the recent trend just has to be females - teens and adolescents rushing to get married. While there is absolutely nothing wrong with this trend or development, it seems that these ladies are under a lot of pressure. For instance, a 22 year old lady is already being worried about getting a man that will marry her and I am just here askance? You still have your whole life ahead of you; so why the rush. The aim of most young ladies now is the big rock (yes, we'll always love our best friends, diamonds) and the big wedding. Do we ever think of a big career? The big dream to become something very useful to yourself? Social networks are not even helping nowadays as people flaunt their relationships, their rings or the lavish weddings. We forget that people let you see the part they only want the world to see, we can only imagine what happens behind closed doors/ isn't brought to our attention. It’s a great moment when he pops the question, the big rock is great too and lest I forget the lavish wedding is also fantastic but do we think about the marriage itself? What happens after the wedding? The morning after?  I have the fear that our generation will record a very high rate of divorce seeing the rate at which some girls will just settle for anything or anyone just to be married or have a change of name.

Marriage is not something that should be rushed into, it takes a lot of processes, deep thought and decision-making. A girl intending to get married should ask herself these questions else a divorce might result ‘am I emotionally ready? Is it time to actually make my life revolve around this one man and kids should we have any? ‘Am I ready to submit to this guy and be patient with him when things are out of control?

 If your answers to these questions are in the affirmative, then I've got great news for you, you can go ahead and marry that man. You can only make sure that it is mutual and the man is committed. If you cannot provide answers or your answers are No, No and No, you might need to sit down have a rethink regarding the step you are about to take.

I am certainly not against early marriage provided the above questions have been asked and answered and they are sure that they are ready to be with this man forever and I am certainly not saying the questions above are the only determinants but I think they are part of the important ones which should be thought about. All I am saying is ladies should make sure that they are not under pressure to get married which is kind of the new trend, most girls are desperate to flaunt their rings and they put men in very tight situations to pop the question or even suggest it at every chance they get.

It is always good to take your time ladies, no need to rush anything as marriage is a lifetime commitment and adequate consideration should be taken before getting into it.