What Girls need to know about themselves

It is widely believed that girls are vulnerable creatures, soft hearted and as such their minds should not be played or toyed with, but we all know this not possible because some guys are just out there to play and toy with the hearts of different girls. It is also believed that girls are the weaker version of the human creature.

I picked up my pen today to change that believe everyone has, yes I agree we girls are vulnerable ( yes I’m a girl) but we are not weak vessels, HELL NO we are not infact we are stronger than we think we only need to understand some things that will help bring out the strength in us. One of the things we need to know and understand is that we are the PRIZE.

Yes the prize, you are the golden prize that one man should be chasing, running and wanting to get. Don’t just be a waste and if you want to be hard to be forgotten then you must be hard to get in the first place. Now don’t get me wrong, I am not saying be stuck up and that but respect yourself as the prize which you are DON’T KISS HIS ASS. Don’t make him think he is the prize because he is not you are. Fact remains that when a guy sees you for the first time, he is attracted to your looks, he is attracted to what he can see, your shape, legs lips just anything he can see at that moment and that is what draws him to you + in his head he is thinking of how he will get into your pants (you can argue not all guys think this way but 97% of them do). You as the prize need to know what to do to make yourself worthy. If he talks to you, be friendly, don’t talk like a cheap slut, and be friendly but frank and firm at the same time. You have the power to decide whether the conversation of that day will lead on from there or not. If he asks for your number, don’t give yours if you are not sure of him collect his and tell him you will call (do not promise). When you get home have a think about it if you want a further conversation, send him a text so he can have your number. Do not call him and do not give too much detail in your text. If he cannot remember you name in the text he is probably not the serious one. After sending the text, he should be the one to call you if he does not please forget him. If you gave him your number, he is very likely to call you because he has a mission, you are the one who needs to make sure he sweats before he gets you. When he calls be nice to him and talk to him as a friend NOTE: DO NOT LET YOUR EMOTIONS TAKE CHARGE OF YOU! NEVER!!!!!  Set some principles like he should not call you after a certain time, he should not call you every day or every time and he should understand when you are busy and needs to be left alone. If he is meant for you all these would not scare him away because he knows he wants to get the prize (you). If he just wants to get into your pants these rules might just send him away, well if it does then let him go who wants a player anyway you will find the right one soon.

Ok that settles that, what if you are in a relationship already and you notice that you do the calling all the time, he rarely checks up on you, he does not even remember when he promises to do something for you until you remind him. Please ladies don’t be stupid the hand writing is on the wall, it is bold enough for you to see don’t be an ass kisser let the idiot go. If you have called him to order and discussed it with him so many times and still can’t see changes then I think you should move on. Some guys even say they don’t think they are obliged to talk to their girlfriends every day, not even a text to check up on her like seriously? How are you meant to know she is fine or you just assume she is? She might need you emotionally at a point but when you don’t even check up on her how will you know if she is fine or not.

Girls, the big mistake we make is pretending we did not see the hand writing, we keep making up excuses for him like he will get better, maybe he is just very busy for now and all that. Don’t be stupid nothing is going to get better infact it will be worse than it is and then you will be the weaker vessel because you can’t take the frustration anymore. When things like these happens it means you need to move on and get someone better who is worthy of you. You may be thinking I have been with him for 2years or even more I can’t just let go, does it mean I have wasted my life and time. I understand that feeling but will you because of that be in an unhappy relationship? You should free yourself, discover yourself and be happy with yourself so you can give the next guy a chance he might just be the right one.

Another thing is you need to know if he sees you in his future or not, if he doesn’t why should you be in his present? If he cannot publicly show you off to the world please he is not the right guy for you. If he only introduces you by your first name to families and friends then he has nothing for you. He is only playing you even if he introduces you as his ‘girl’ it’s still not enough he needs to address you as his ‘girlfriend’ then yeah it looks like he has plans for you. If he cannot do this then just move on never think its ok for him to introduce you by your first name, don’t make excuses when the hand writing is there. If your guy loves you then he is ready to show you off to the world that he loves and he is proud of you

Ok, he invited you out on a date and it went well (it’s the first date), then he wants a kiss??? Oh really, just because he has spent on you then he wants something in return? No, do not kiss a guy on your first date because the first date is meant for you to get to know each other. May be after a couple of dates you can give him that but not the first second or even third dates. That is by the way the one I don’t seem to get is going home with him after the first date. Girls what do you portray of yourself? You should never sleep over at his on first, second or third dates. It is not about something happening (we all know what I mean), it’s about giving yourself the respect and acting like the ‘golden prize’. He will respect you more so please take note.

Note: having sex with him is entirely up to you but as a Christian I will advise you to leave sex till later possibly your wedding night but because I am not here to preach to you about when you should do the ‘do’ I won’t go deep into that. Every woman to her decision but I want to urge you not to have sex with him or even sleep over at his for the first 5 to 6months you start dating him ( if you will sleep over ensure you do not have sex yet). Don’t let him get in there easily at least not yet until you are sure of him to some extent. Oh? You are scared that he will go away? Please let him go if you have to use sex to make him stay then he aint worth you. Yes guys love sex but he can do without it for just 5 to 6months if he can’t Then he is not meant for you. Just let him go and no he can’t get it outside till you are ready he will have to wait till you are. Always remember this piece ‘SEX WON’T TRAP HIM DOWN, SLEEPING IN HIS PLACE WON’T MAKE YOU IS FAVOURITE, GETTING PREGNANT FOR HIM WON’T MAKE HIM LOVE YOU AND IT WON’T GIVE YOU A PASS PLEASE BE WISE’.

I hope I have been able to make ladies/girls understand how important and how special you are. You are the ‘PRIZE’ so never ever compromise that. Let him sweat before he gets you. Remember ‘IF YOU WANT TO BE HARD TO FORGET THE YOU MUST BE HARD TO GET AT FIRST’